Dean Nicholson

Forlorn man sitting in the city

Living with Grief and Uncertainty

When dealing with something intense, like the loss of a relationship, it can seem as if that feeling completely dominates our reality. To a degree this is true. Yet at the same time, the feelings of pain or hurt or confusion are really only present when we allow ourselves to focus on them.

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What is it Like to Be Alone in a Cabin Retreat?

Being by ourselves in a solo retreat creates the opportunity for three important explorations or insights:

Alone in a crowd: We can examine the concept of being alone
Who is alone?: We can explore the fear of abandonment and death
I’m dancing as fast as I can: We can see our habitual patterns of avoiding connecting with our inner depth

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How to use mindfulness when you can’t sleep

Suddenly I was wide awake. With dread, I looked over at the clock on the nightstand, hoping I wouldn’t see what I knew I would…1:30 a.m.! I’d been asleep for less than three hours, and if this night was like all the nights of the past six months, it meant I was awake for the

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